My spiritual growth in and outside of Kabbalah

How to defeat your ego

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Rav Ashlag, the founder of The Kabbalah Centre, says there is only one thing we can do to defeat our ego – recognize it. The moment we see it, the Light comes in and sucks it out of us. When we give up our ego completely, when we achieve the level where we can do true letting go of our agenda, that’s immortality in all parts of our life.

Today, recognize everything about you that is opposite of the Light, and connect it to your ego. Whatever hurts you, whatever ticks you off, whatever saddens you, whatever insults you, whatever worries you, whatever frightens you, know that it’s simply your ego doing its job of blocking your Light.

It’s not fair! Are you myopic? The Big Picture…

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Many times in life we witness things that appear unfair. However, usually it’s just a test of our certainty. That’s why when we restrict jumping to conclusions – our entire outlook opens up.

Today, when things go against your wishes, be humble for a minute. Assume you don’t really know what’s going on by virtue of the fact that you’re trapped within your five senses. Therefore it’s impossible to see the entire picture.

Not only will you become much wiser, but the Light will inject you with the explanation of what you’ve just witnessed. That injection may happen on the spot, in five minutes, in five days, in five years. But rest assured it’ll happen when it needs to happen.


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Mercy. You want to receive it but you don’t want to give it?

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The Universe has three elements, just like the atom. It has the negative element, equivalent with judgment in our worldly life. That is the electrons of the atom.

It has the proton, the positive, in our worldly life it is called mercy.

The third type of element is the neutral…

Without the positive element, the world, yours, ours, the Universe, falls apart.

As it’s above so it is below… and vice versa.

You have judgment, an overwhelming amount of judgment. You want to receive mercy… but the question is: are you willing to extend it to others and to yourself? Probably not!

Your life and the Universe is out of balance because of humanity’s unwillingness to give what they themselves crave: mercy.

Light created our world with mercy. We would not live out the day without it.

The question is, do we extend it to others? Or better yet, do we extend it when it’s difficult for us? When every fiber of your being wants to say: NO… it is wrong!

Today, put the brakes on the instinct to judge and criticize and separate. Your life, the quality of your life, depends on your ability to open your heart and give what only you can give: mercy, tolerance, acceptance, patience.

Don’t do it for others. Do it for your own sake… It’s OK.

Are you a spineless coward? A people pleaser? White lie teller?

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Fear of speaking or hearing the truth is the biggest stumbling block we face in our desire to experience genuinely fulfilling, honest and loving relationships. When we hold something back, that something separates us from the other person. If we’re not open to hearing the words of others without reacting or taking them personally, we have distanced ourselves from those individuals.

It’s always easier to tell people what they want to hear. It’s often more comfortable to agree with someone, even if we disagree in our hearts. And since it can be equally frightening to confront painful truths about our own selves, our friends and family may feel compelled to tell us only what we want to hear.

Today when you need to tell the truth, have the courage to open your heart as well as your mouth. And when you need to hear the truth, have the strength to open your ears and close your mouth.

Your Soul’s Purpose, Kiki The Cat, Your Million Dollar Dream

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Kiki the cat: tool for transformation and soul correctionWhat did I learn from the death of my cat and what does it have to do with your soul’s purpose?

This article will ruffle feathers… if you are politically correct, please stop here and don’t read it. This is a warning. You’ll hate me.

OK, here is the story: my cat, Kiki had been incontinent, on and off for the past 2 years. Antibiotics did not help, and Kiki seemed distraught from her lack of control.

Many of those happened on my bed.

Then she started to poop around the house, in obvious distress.

Then hide in the closet for 20 hours at a time. She would leave a pool of pee, and smell pipi herself… intensely.

It was time to reclaim Kiki’s dignity: after all, losing control of your body exposes you to shame.

This past Thursday I drove Kiki out to a nearby dense wooded area.

I was sure that as soon as she saw the woods she would run back to the car, but to my surprise, the opposite happened.

As soon as she was out of the “bag” she, gingerly, body alert and curious, started to walk into the thick of the woods… away from me.

I stood there for about half an hour, even though lost sight of her after about 3 minutes.

I drove home. My muscle testing proved to me that by next morning she was dead.

I miss the brave little girl… And had some interesting soul purpose thoughts channeled to me:

In the natural world sick animals take themselves out… go to the woods and die.

In the world of current western culture: we want to keep our pets alive (and miserable) as long as we can.

I was overriding the natural law of life with my made in the 21st century moralism.

My soul’s purpose is to subdue my human knowledge to devine knowledge.

Many ways to say that, one is “Forget Thyself”, another: “Bring the devine to everything.”

Allowing Kiki to go home, I was able to fulfill, for a moment, on my soul’s purpose.

Your Soul’s Purpose is done… Now What?

Kabbalah says that once you fulfill on the soul’s purpose (your correction for this lifetime), you have a choice. You can die, or you can ask to stay longer and tackle something else… maybe tackle a desire that has proved itself elusive.

Many of my clients have always dreamed of becoming a millionaire, but they never did. It is not aligned with their soul correction.

your soul's purposeIf they could, (or would) start concentrating on their soul correction, they could put themselves in the position of asking for the million… as a play for the “extension.” It wasn’t part of their original life script, but now, it can be, given that they completed the original script.

And that is the moral of the story: once you know your soul correction, and you get busy correcting it, you can choose another game for the rest of your life.

How do you find out your soul’s correction? There are a few ways, one of them is a one-on-one consult with me.

Contact me for details on how you can find out your soul’s purpose.