Tag: Desire

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Are YOU Lazy? Procrastinate?

“I’m not a risky person. I would love to be, but I am just too lazy!” (August 27th response from reader)

You are not lazy. Your body is, yes, but not YOU. In his book ‘Path of the Just,’ kabbalist Rav Luzzatto explains the body has an inner-gravity that keeps everything down and as is. Reaching out, being active and spontaneous, doing something new .. these require so much effort because the body wants to keep things to itself.

He warns us to be ever-vigilant in our battle against the downward pull of our bodily thoughts (I’ll do it later, I can’t, I don’t want to be bothered, It’s not going to work anyway…)

Is our soul lazy? Of course not, because being lazy is being bounded and totally controlled by time, space and motion. Our soul wants to and can achieve all our dreams and desires, but it needs to be liberated from the heaviness of the body.

The only way to float against gravity is to act. Like they say on those late-night TV commercials: ACT NOW … ..OFFER EXPIRES.

Today, be impulsive. I know that word has a negative connotation but I’d like to use it anyway. For me it implies listening to your gut, jumping into situations to jump start your self, and leaving no space for thinking, rationalizing, or procrastination.

You know, just do it.

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Tell The Truth… Even if it hurts

It’s difficult to be lovingly truthful with others. When an opportunity arises to confront someone with the truth, we lock up; our hearts race and our adrenaline pumps at the mere prospect of speaking our mind.

It’s always easier to tell people what they want to hear. It’s more comfortable to agree with someone even if we don’t agree in our hearts.

Fear of speaking the truth is a stumbling block we face in our desire to experience fulfilling, honest and loving relationships. When we hold something back, that something separates us from the other person.

Today, be courageous. Open your mouth when you need to tell the truth.

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Ask Others What They Want or Need

Yesterday we risked asking for ourselves. Today, let’s do the opposite and ask others what they need. Sometimes that’s a far bigger risk.

When was the last time you asked your boss if you could do more around the office? Or asked your wife if she needed help around the house? Or asked your kids if they wanted you to spend more time with them?

Those are risky questions indeed because you may not want to hear the answer.

Today, notice how often you don’t ask others what they need because of your own desire to receive for the self alone. Once you get in touch with that, ask if you can help in whatever context.

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When they don’t want to transform, be patient and persistent

My job as a teacher is to create a window of opportunity for the student to enter a different reality, a higher version of their life where they believe in their abilities and potential. Believe is the wrong word – where they know it.
It may take a week, a month, a year, a decade – it’s up to them to go when they are ready. It’s not my job to push them, just to keep it open. I’ve had the same conversation with someone, over and over, for years, and finally one day the Light bulb went off.
Is there someone in your life that’s frustrating you because they don’t get it? Be patient. As long as you stay true, unconditional, open, and caring, they’ll get it when the time is right. Your test is to keep your excitement and commitment levels high and rising.and successful. Fantasize with the intent of activating these deep desires and allow these universal forces inside you to unfold.

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Dreams: Messages from All-of-it

Dreams are vitally important to our existence. They’re not just fantasies that are meant to entertain us as we live out our days monotonously. Rather they’re our greatest potential whispering to us and motivating us to reveal that potential in the world.

Unfortunately, most of us abandon our dreams in childhood. Settling for what we think life is supposed to be, rather than what we dream it can be. We lose the enthusiasm and motivation for our greatest goals, and stop even daring ourselves to think of such things.

Today, remember this: everything starts with a thought. Allow yourself to cook up the infinite ways in which you can be happy and successful. Fantasize with the intent of activating these deep desires and allow these universal forces inside you to unfold.